What Is A Ball Gag | Why & How To Use It

If you have ever experimented in BDSM (Bondage, Disciple, Sadism, and Masochism) bedroom play or watched videos online related to bondage, then you have probably seen people wearing ball gags in their mouths. Ball gags are commonly used sex toys in the BDSM world.

If you're looking to make your bedroom routine a little kinkier, then they are great starter bondage product.

What is a ball gag?

A ball gag is a sex toy worn in the mouth that prevents the wearer from speaking.  A ball gag uses a ball or a sphere that is normally made of hard plastic, rubber or silicone. The ball is connected to a strap that wraps around the wearer's head. Once in place in the mouth, the ball sits behind the teeth. The wearer can still make noises from their mouth, grunting, but they will be unable to speak.

If the wearer tries to speak too much they will drool around the gag.

What is the sexual appeal of a ball gag?

There are a few reasons ball gags are an appeal bondage toy to some people.

Some people just enjoy the simple sensation of being physically restrained.

Some people enjoy creating dominant-submissive roles.

Some people find that the kind of depersonalization BDSM offers, appealing. (1)

There is a big power balance shift when one person can speak, and the other has to listen and is unable to respond verbally.

If you enjoy being more submissive during sex, it can be arousing to be gagged.

On the other hand, if you like to be in control in the bedroom, then putting the gag on your partner can be a huge turn-on.

Always remember to before you bring a ball gag your relationship, it is a must to obtain consent. You need to be clear on exactly what you plan to do with your partner because once the ball gag is on your partner has no way to verbally tell you to "stop" during the interaction. 

How To Use a Ball Gag

Safety is very important when using a ball gag because most gags prevent the wearer from speaking properly.

Some ball gags also restrict breathing properly. If the person wearing the gag has their nose blocked, they may not be able to get any air in.

Never use a ball gag if you have a cold, sinus infection or allergies.

There are ball gags that allow the wearer to continue breathing through their mouth (see the products below).

When first using a ball gag, it is best not to tie up the hands of the person wearing the device. This will allow then to take off the gag themselves if they feel like it's too much.

If the gag is difficult to remove, it is best to agree on a nonverbal "get this thing off me! ASAP!" signal, like a pinch or several taps on the back.

This practice is known as a "safe action" which is similar to a "safe word" in bondage and BDSM.

A safe action is an action that means that you need to check everything is ok with your partner before continuing.

Another idea for a safe action is to use a noisy item. You could use a squeaky toy, a set of keys, or a bell. If your gagged partner starts using the item, it means they're using their safe action. This is a good idea when the submissive partner is tied up. They can hold the noisy object throughout the interaction and shake it when they need to.

Always negotiate the rules before you start having sex, so there isn't any confusion in the moment.

Another important point is to never leave your partner alone while wearing the gag or while they are tied up. Always be present in the room, where you have a clear view of them, in case something happens and they need your help. (3)

Here is a helpful video showing how to use a ball gag:

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Author: Erica Cuff

Erica Cuff has been involved in the sex toy industry since 2000. Working behind the motto “Sex Toys should be fun”, Erica provides useful tips & advice from years of hands on experience and research with adult products. 

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