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Over time sex can lose its shimmer when you’ve been in a relationship with your partner for a lengthy period of time. This tends to mean that foreplay is missed out, most of the time.
Foreplay is so important. It’s fun, but it also serves a purpose. It’s a good way to build up to the action. The anticipation and teasing creates excitement. It’s the best way of turning someone on. - By Venus | Collegian Female Sex Columnist
Foreplay serves a very important biological function. It increases anticipation and preparation for sex.
According to Kat Van Kirk, PhD in Clinical Sexology, many physiological changes happen during foreplay.
"Penetrative sex is not the only intimate act couples can physically engage in. Foreplay is just as important and can feel just as good! It’s fun, it’s thrilling and it actually serves a vital role when having intercourse."
During foreplay men generally have an increased blood flow to the penis, resulting in an erection and heightened sensations.
Women generally experience their clitoris becoming erect and there is an increase in blood flow to the vagina. This results in an increase of natural vaginal lubrication, and the vaginal opening expanding, ready for intercourse.
Dopamine and oxytocin (the love hormone) are released which reduces stress levels and increases relaxation. This is why going straight to penetrative sex without engaging in foreplay can mean your genitals aren’t ready for intercourse. This can lead to a more painful and uncomfortable sexual experience.
Foreplay is also necessary for helping to create room for trust between each other. Taking the time to know and appreciate each other's bodies before getting straight into sex means both partners can feel comfortable and relaxed.
Dr Ruth Westheimer, a psychosexual therapist from New York University notes the importance of foreplay for women.
It's particularly important for women to have successful foreplay because it takes a woman a longer time [than a man] to get up to the level of arousal needed to orgasm.
According to sexual health expert Dr. Jennifer Berman:
Foreplay helps to maintain intimacy. Physical intimacy but also emotional intimacy. Over time, when life gets in the way – our kids, our work, our stress, financial whatever it is – being able to maintain a connection, an intimacy with our partners, is really, really important and foreplay helps to do that.
With foreplay being an important part of any sexual encounter, here are five different toys perfect for getting you and your partner in the mood.
A perfect way to build excitement is to play a couple’s board game before sex. These games are fun and a bit kinky, and a great way to get you into the right mood.
There is a huge range of board games available, most of which involve challenges and some fun competition.
Some games, like Choose Your Pleasure involves rolling the dice and choosing one of the two activities to be performed on each other.
Board games are a sexy inclusion to any foreplay pleasure.
Blindfolds are a cheap and easy way to supercharge your foreplay sessions.
One person takes a submissive role by allowing their partner to be the dominant person, allowing them to touch, fondle and lure them.
As the person using the blindfold cannot see, they have to rely on their other senses, especially touch and smell.
The person wearing the blindfold needs to rely on their other senses, such as touch and smell through foreplay.
The person wearing the blindfold surrenders themselves to their partner, which helps to heighten arousal.
Using blindfolds are a great way to build tension and lust before sex. There are many blindfolds to choose from at The Hot Spot. You can find them here
If you are feeling more adventurous then explore our bondage and fetish collection to find something to include in your foreplay routine.
For those really wanting to excite their partner's bodies, then a finger vibrator is the perfect foreplay toy!
These small but powerful, finger vibrators are perfect for partner play as they are very easy to use.
The great thing about finger vibes is that they aren’t just made to be used for clitoral stimulation. You can use them in places with lots of nerve endings including the nipples and the skin on the inner thighs.
Using the different vibration intensities is a perfect way to tease your partner before intercourse. It also works very well when used with other foreplay items such as bed restraints.
If you’re looking for an extremely sensual foreplay experience, using massage oil is a great way to stimulate your partner.
Embracing each other’s bodies builds trust and allows for complete enjoyment. The more relaxed you and your partner are, the better the partnered sex.
Massage oils are available in a variety of sensual fragrances. If you really want to give your foreplay routine a wonderful setting, then try an edible heart massage candle! Specially formulated to melt at just three degrees above body temperature, 3-in-1 massage candles don’t just provide romantic light and fragrance – the melted wax can also be used as a moisturiser or warm massage oil.
Foreplay can often be the difference between a fantastic sexual experience and a poor one. Focusing on foreplay is important. Being relaxed, comfortable and stimulated should be considered a key part of every sexual encounter.
Using blindfolds, board games, oils, vibrators, and butt plugs create a fun, intimate setting, which adds extra titillation and passion that intensify desire and pleasure.
Explore the amazing world of foreplay with some bedroom tools and toys that will be sure to make your sexual encounters more pleasurable.
A part of foreplay is in the tease and anticipation of not knowing what's coming next.
Couples who prefer interchange of control can play with a feather tickler. They allow you to try gentle, teasing touches, followed by a few rough (and consented) slaps that may get you both thrilled.
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