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What Are Dildos?

Dildos are sex toys shaped like a penis. They are designed to provide pleasure via penetration and can be used for both vaginal and anal purposes.

Not all of them are shaped like a penis. There are also several different types of dildos, depending on their design, materials, and function.

They can be used in many ways. The modern sex toy industry has created a vast range of dildos that come in many shapes and sizes. Simply put, anyone can find “the right one” that suits them perfectly.

If you want to experiment with new things with your partner or you need something to help masturbate, then a quality dildo might be just what you need.

 

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Dildos and Vibrators Aren’t the Same Thing

Dildo vs vibrator

Dildos are often confused with vibrators. Unlike vibrators, dildos don’t buzz, and the two offer different sensations.

A dildo is controlled manually, and essentially, the person regulates the movement and the sensation.

Vibrators are an electrical type of dildo, but they also have a motor built into them which causes them to vibrate.

Most vibrators are designed for women, and the vibrations are designed to stimulate the clitoris and g-spot.

Dildos give a more realistic experience. They have a more natural feel and resemble a real penis.

 

The Difference Between a Dildo and a Dong

dildo vs dong

You often hear people referring to dildos as dongs and vice versa. However, these aren’t the same thing.

Dildos are toys that resemble a penis and has balls. Some have a base like a flare or testicles, while dongs don’t.

Dongs don't have balls and generally don't look like a realistic penis.

They come in similar shapes, sizes, and are made out of the same materials.

Overall, dildos are better for anal use, as they have a base preventing you from pushing the whole thing up in your anus – it’s the only significant benefit of dildos over dongs.

 

How to Choose:

Shopping for a dildo can be overwhelming. There are many sizes, shapes, materials, colours, and manufacturers to choose from.

A lot of people don’t know where to begin.

We’re here to help. Here are the 6 essentials you need to consider.

 

1.     Do You Want a Realistic Dildo or Not?

One of the first considerations when buying a dildo is how you want it to look. Do you want it to look like a penis, or does this not matter?

For some people, it’s easier when they have a visual that is lifelike, especially when they are masturbating. On the other hand, there are those that care more about the feel than the appearance.

 

2.     What Kind of Texture do You Like?

Smooth dildos have a completely smooth texture. This depends on their material and the design itself. Smooth dildos can be inserted easily, and they don’t require a lot of lube. On the other hand, textured dildos with veins are many people’s favorite, and they say that they get immense pleasure from textured dildos, also know as a realistic dildo.

Some of the most common textures are veins, ridges, swirls, ripples, and bumps. In general, it’s all about what you are into.

 

3.     The Base Matters

dildo bases

 

It might not seem that important, but the base changes the way you can use your dildo.

Without a flared base, you won’t be able to use it during anal or attach it to a strap on.

On top of that, a good base gives you a better grip over your dildo and allows you to thrust just the way you want it.

 

There are 4 types of bases:

1. Flared Base - They have a fared end which can be a suction cup. They are safe for anal use and strap on compatible.

2. Scrotum Base - They have a set of testicles at the end. They are safe for anal use.

3. Flared + Scrotum Base - They have a set of testicles at the end, as well as a flared base. They are safe for anal use and strap on compatible.

4. Straight / No Base - They are just straight dongs that don't have any base. This type is no safe for anal use unless they are bent or using a stopper like a cock ring.

There are also dildos that have special base features like suction cups. They can be attached to a hard surface, allowing you to ride a dildo and indulge in hands-free action. On the other hand, a base-free toy or a dong can be used by two women at the same time.

 

4.     Size

dildo size chart

Not all dildos are the same in size. Some people simply don’t enjoy being penetrated by a large penis, and this means that a big dildo won’t suit them as well.

There is a myth that men and women who use dildos exclusively have extra-large toys.

This isn’t true, as everybody's preferences are different.

Think about your current partner or an ex you have enjoyed sex with. How big is their dong?

Would you prefer more, less or about the same?

If you don’t have a reference, it’s generally a good idea to go with an average size of 5 – 6 inches for a vagina, and 4 - 5 inches for anal.

Erect penis measurements from the Ansell Study done at Spring Break in Cancun in 2001 found:  Average erect penis length was 5.877 inches with most between 5.5 and 6.3 inches.  Average erect penis girth (circumference) was 4.97 inches with most between 4.7 and 5.1 inches. Other earlier studies (Gebhard and Johnson 1979) had similar findings with average penis length of 5.5 to 6.2 inches and the same circumference results. (1)

5.     Materials

The first thing you will notice when shopping for dildos is that they come in many colours.

However, the majority of them are made of silicone or thermoplastic elastomers (TPE) .

The type of material determines the weight, surface feel, flexibility, firmness, and maintenance.

We will talk about materials in detail below, so stick around to learn more.

 

6.     Shape

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Dildos also come in many different shapes that affect the way they look and feel.

Many are straight, some have a curved tip, designed to stimulate the P-spot or G-spot more easily.

Some toys have a larger base and a small tip, which allows you to start with a small amount of penetration and increase the width and length as you push deeper.

Some have a wider tip, and they are usually designed to look like a penis. Tapered designs are much better for anal sex.

 

How to Use a Dildo

A dildo is designed to simulate a penis penetration. It can be used for both vaginal and anal penetration.

 

1. Deep Thrusting

Deep Thrusting Dildo Technique
image via Bad Girls Bible
 

Inserted into the vagina or anus and used manually by thrusting it back and forward to get a stimulation identical to a penis.

Thrusting along the entire length of your vagina can provide intense stimulation.

Deep thrusting requires a toy with firm core so that it doesn't bend.

Soft dildos can make this action more difficult. Start with a smoother or curved dildo to being with.

 

2. Short Thrusting

Short Thrusting Dildo Technique
image via Bad Girls Bible

Most sensitive nerve endings in the vagina are within the first 1/3 of your vagina canal.

You don’t have to thrust deeply to get the most pleasure out of your dildo.

Short and rapid strokes will stimulate these nerves and won't push on your cervix.

Keep in mind, just because you can insert up to seven inches of a dildo, doesn’t mean that you need to.

You can use the extra shaft length to get a better grip on the dildo.

 

3. Rocking Technique

Rocking Dildo Technique
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Rocking your dildo requires back and forth movement at an angle so that the tip of the dildo is applying lots of pressure to the bottom of your vagina (posterior wall).

If you are lying down on your back, your dildo needs to be pointing down towards the bed as you are pushing in it.

You will notice that the sensation is similar to thrusting, but it will also provide clitoral stimulation when done correctly.

Rocking works best with softer models, that have a little give and bend. Soft silicone or curved and intended for dual clitoral and vaginal stimulation.

 

4. G Spot Milking

G Spot Milking Dildo Technique
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Milking your G Spot with a dildo involves you dragging the top part of the dildo across your G Spot as you pull outward.

You can push the dildo against the top inside part of your vagina (anterior wall) as you push it back inside.

You should feel an intense sensation when harder toys, such as glass, or metal.

You can buy dildos with a curve that are made specifically for G Spot stimulation.

For a detailed guide on finding your G Spot and other techniques, you can use to stimulate it, check out this guide.

 

5. Anal

Anal Dildo Technique
image via Bad Girls Bible

For those that like to explore anal sex, using your dildo for some anal pleasure is quite common.

Anal lube is a must for all types of anal sex, as the anus can't make its own lubricant.

Remember, never put a dildo straight back into your vagina after it has been in your anus.

This can cause nasty infections in your vagina.

Check out this guide to anal masturbation for more tips.

 

6. Double Penetration

Double Penetration Dildo Technique
image via Bad Girls Bible

Many fantasize about double penetration. There are four ways to practice double penetration.

  1. Dildo and your male partner.
  2. Two dildos, one inserted vaginally, one anally.
  3. Dildo and butt plug.
  4. Dildo and your fingers.

We recommend that you try this on your own first to see how it feels before trying it with a partner.

It is important that you clean everything that has been inserted anally before allowing it near your vagina. Including cleaning your anus.

This can be done using an anal douche.

You can use a dildo to self-stimulate or pleasure someone else.

Dildos can also be used during foreplay for external stimulation, to practice giving oral sex, or used as gags.

A person can use a dildo to masturbate or to pleasure their partner.

There are also double-ended dildos that can be used for both vaginal and anal stimulation simultaneously.

Partners can also use one single dildo at the same time.

There are also strap on dildos that are attached to a harness and allow you to penetrate your partner without using your hands.

A strap on dildo is a very popular product used by gay and lesbian relationships and also used by heterosexual couples than enjoy pegging.

Dildos are designed to penetrate easily and offer incredible stimulation, but make sure to find the right size.

 

Things to Know if You’re a Beginner

If you are looking to buy your first dildo, there are a couple of things to keep in mind.

You need to use your toy safely and avoid hurting yourself or someone else.

At the same time, making the right purchase is important because you don’t want to throw away your money on something you won’t be using.

Masturbation can help people explore their preferences, increase the ability to have orgasms, improve sleep, release sexual tension, experience pleasure, relieve menstrual cramps, and reduce stress. (2)

Here are some essentials to consider:         

Don’t go Crazy With Size

Don’t start off with an extra-large size. Some people go overboard with the size without even thinking about if their body can handle it.

You want something that will give you immense pleasure, but also fits your body comfortably.

You don’t need a huge dong to pleasure yourself or someone else – it’s more about how you use it.

The average penis size is between 5 or 6 inches long. Your first toy shouldn’t be over that size, and if you aren’t feeling confident, go with a smaller one.

I'm sure you have heard stories about people getting dildos 'stuck in them'. This situation sometimes arises during anal play, when people insert toys into the anus that don't have a flared base.

A large one won’t necessarily get stuck, but you might experience pain and discomfort.

 

Size Guide

Dildo Width, Length, Girth, Example

Length isn’t the only size indicator, you will also need to know the width and the girth of a dildo.

The longer a dildo is, the larger overall it will be. However, you can find dildos have an increased girth and width as you go up the shaft.

Here are some general measurements:

  • Length - is how long it is.
  • Girth (Circumference) - is the measurement around the dildo.
  • Width - is how wide it is.

When buying a dildo, always make sure to check these three important measurements and find the best one for you.

Here is a helpful video, showing you how to use a dildo:

 

Use a Condom if You’re Sharing

Dildos aren’t designed for solo action only. Lots of couples use them for experimenting and spicing things up in bed.

However, when you are sharing a dildo be aware that it is possible to transfer sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). Sharing dildos requires extra caution, especially if you like to switch roles during sex.

If you are using the same shaft to pleasure each other, you will have to change the condom after each turn. It’s the only way to protect yourself and practice safe sex.

 

Clean Your Toy Regularly

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Dildos can cause infections if not cleaned and stored properly. Dildos can be made out of different materials, and this also determines the right way to clean them.

Silicone dildos are the easiest when it comes to cleaning and hygiene. They generally don’t irritate the skins and most are non-porous.

This means that it doesn’t retain any liquid or bacteria, which makes maintenance easier. You can clean it with any warm soapy water solutions or toy cleaner products.

If the dildo is porous and it retains liquids like CyberSkin types, then go with a mild cleaning product and warm water. Make sure to wash your dildo before and after each use and dry it off with a dry towel.

Avoid using washing machines, or dishwashers, as some dildos can get damaged or simply won’t get cleaned properly and will retain water.

 

Additional Maintenance Tips

To keep things simple and make sure you’re always using your dildo properly, we suggest using water-based lubes where possible.

They are safe for all types of condoms and dildos. Some lubes can react in a bad way with certain materials such as rubber or silicone.

Dildos made out of different materials can react badly when they come in contact with one another. Don’t store them touching each other.         

Don’t store your dildos openly, as they will gather bacteria, dirt, dust, or harmful chemicals. Find adequate storage and make sure that the materials they come in contact with are safe.
 

Types of Materials

One of the most important things to consider when buying any dildo is the material it’s made of.

Some manufacturers make dildos out of cheap materials, which are not as safe as the more expensive products. A general rule is, stay away from very cheap options.

 

Porous, Non-Porous and Phthalates

Porous

Porous materials are softer in general. More importantly, porous materials can be penetrated with liquids and bacteria. These substances are hard to remove once they are set into the product.

All products made out of plastic are porous, with the exception of ABS hard plastic.

That’s why it’s generally recommended to put a condom on dildos made out of porous materials even if you never plan on sharing it with someone else.

Still, no matter how well you maintain them, these toys can’t be sterilized entirely, and this is what sets them back.

Phthalates

The next important thing you should be cautious about is materials that contain phthalates.

This chemical agent is usually combined with plastics to give them more flexibility and bind them.

Phthalates are very unhealthy and can potentially lead to cancer, which is why they were banned in many industries.

However, due to a lack of regulation, a lot of sex toy manufacturers still use them to manufacture their products.

Not all porous materials include this agent, and this is very important to check before buying a product.

Phthalates can cause allergic reactions, irritations, and itch. In some cases, they lead to more serious issues, so make sure to avoid this chemical agent.

Non-Porous

These materials are far better quality, they are safer and as a result they cost more.

Non-porous materials can’t get penetrated by any bacteria or dirt, and that makes them a lot safer.

They can be sterilized completely and, if cleaned regularly, will never cause irritations or infections.

These materials are much sturdier, and some of the most commonly used for adult toys are treated wood, metal, and glass.

Silicone is also non-porous, but unlike its counterparts, it can be soft, making silicone dildos a great option for people who want safe adult toys but don’t enjoy hard penetration.

Common Dildo Materials

Silicone

Silcone Dildo

 

Silicone is the softest non-porous material.

However, it can be firm or soft, depending on how it is produced.

This silky material holds temperature really well, and you can feel vibrations easily. Dildos made out of silicone can be sterilized in boiling water.

If used properly and maintained, a silicone dildo will last forever while being completely safe.

Glass

Glass Dildo

Some of the most beautiful dildos out there are made out of glass.

Some people even have collections of them. A glass dildo will be heavy, smooth, and really hard. They hold temperature and can be cleaned with ease.

Glass is non-porous, which makes it completely safe. You can even cool it down or warm it up before use to get it just the way you like it.

Even though you can sterilize a glass dildo with some products, they shouldn’t be exposed to intense heat or cold as it could damage them.

Metal

Metal Dildo

Metal dildos are usually used by people with experience.

They offer an intense joyride but need an experienced driver holding the stick.

Metal dildos are usually made out of stainless steel. They are smooth, heavy, and firm.

There are dildos made out of other metals, but stainless steel is the best option.

It won’t deteriorate over time and potentially harm you.

At the same time, they are easy to sterilize and are great for people who are allergic to other materials dildos are made out of.

Naturally, metal diodes are non-porous, and you can even boil them in hot water for complete sterilization.

Jelly

Jelly Dildo

Jelly is usually the cheapest option. Even though this material is cheap and flexible, and usually made with phthalates.

Its baseline is rubber, and phthalates are added to the mix to give it flexibility.

This is why they are smooth, easy to bend and come in a lot of shape variety.

If you find a really reliable brand that has proof their jelly dildos don’t have this compound, then go for it.

It’s also important to mention that all jelly toys have a rubber odor that gets worse over time.

On top of that, they are extremely porous, so bacteria can get easily trapped in them, especially when they are bent regularly.

In general, this is a really low-quality material that should be avoided.

Plastic

Plastic Dildo

Plastic toys are a bit more expensive than jelly, but they are much safer.

Most of the plastic used for these toys has no phthalates because phthalates are usually used to give flexibility, and this isn’t possible with plastic.

However, make sure to check every product just to make sure.

Plastics are smooth and hard and very easy to clean.

They can be cleaned with soap and water at any temperature.

The biggest downside to plastic dildos is that they don’t really look that special.

However, they are a great cheap option.
 

Types of Dildos
 

Suction Cup Dildos

Suction Cup Dildo

 

What are suction cup dildos?

Suction cup dildos have a suction cup at the back end. They can be attached to a smooth surface and let you pleasure yourself without having to use your hands.

Suction cup dildos are very popular.

They are used to spice things up during sex and for masturbation.

How to use a suction cup dildo

Attach the dildo to a clean flat surface. You can attach them to the wall and have a doggy style with yourself.

You want to try spit roasting but don’t have another person to play with?

Simply attach it to the wall on either side, and you won’t need another guy.

It’s a popular shower toy, too – attach it and enjoy some steamy self-pleasuring and clean your toy right away. No matter what you do, make sure that you attach it to a sturdy surface.
 

Glass Dildos

What are glass dildos?

Glass dildos are dildos made from solid heat-treated glass. They are heavier and firmer than standard dildos.

Using them requires a thicker lubricant compared to rubber or jelly dildos.

A lot of people prefer them because they are firmer and it’s easier for them to get maximum pleasure.

It takes time to get used to them, but these inflexible versions can help you hit the prostate gland or G-spot like they’ve never been hit before.

How to use glass dildos

You can both cool them or warm them up before use, using water.

Make sure to use a thick lube to make them slide comfortably.

What’s great about this type is that they don’t absorb lube.

If you’ve used to a flexible type, start slowly with a glass version until you get used to how it feels.
 

Double Dildos

What are double dildos?

They are dildos that have a long shaft with two penis head shapes at each end. 

Double dildos or a double ended dildo might not be for everyone. However, if you’re in for some double trouble, they will give you what you’re looking for. 

It’s best to start off with a silicone one, as they can be bent easily for maximum enjoyment.

How to use double dildos

Like any other dildo, they require lube, so make sure to put it on both ends.

Double dongs can be used both in solo action and for sharing fun.

There are many ways you can use one. In solo action, lie on your bed and put several cushions under your hips.

Once you are comfortable, spread your legs. Insert a single end inside you and use your hand to bend the other side, and thrust with it or insert it into the other hole.

The other way to use them is to shape it like a letter “U” and put it on the surface facing upwards.

Then you can simply squat over it and gently insert it into both your vagina and anus. You can do this on the bed so you can bounce on the dildo.
 

Where to Buy a Dildo?

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Here at The Hot Spot we have a huge range of dildos in every colour and style imaginable.

We ship all orders on the same say as you order, and package your products discreetly so that nobody has to know what you ordered.

If you are looking to buy dildos, then you have come to the right place. We offer regular deals and specials monthly.

They make an excellent gift for a partner.

A dildo can be a fantastic addition in bed and help you explore your sexuality with your partner.

It can be a great home companion and help you keep your long-distance relationship spicy. There’s nothing wrong with owning and using a dildo.

We hope our guide helps you find the right product that will suit your needs.

 

History:

Have you ever wondered when the dildo was invented?

In 2015 scientists discovered a phallus in Germany that is over 28,000 years old.

It’s believed that this is the oldest dildo ever discovered, which shows that sex toys have been a part of our culture for a long time.

There are also many historical reports of Ancient Greeks and Egyptians using bananas for pleasure.

Erica Cuff

Author: Erica Cuff

Erica Cuff has been involved in the sex toy industry since 2000. Working behind the motto “Sex Toys should be fun”, Erica provides useful tips & advice from years of hands on experience and research with adult products. 

Happily married since 2005, she knows first-hand how our sex lives can become repetitive if we don't give them the time and effort they deserve. If you're looking to spice things up in the bedroom, then Erica is your gal! She lives to cover topics that empower men, women and couples needing inspiration to keep lovemaking exciting and fun.

Her other focus is teaching women how to properly master the “bald man in the boat” to achieve the best orgasms ever (partner or no partner!) Her informative and unique tips, techniques and advice is up there with certified sex therapists and Sexologists, but with the added advantage of her expereince in the adult toy business.

Erica Cuff's Linkedin profile highlights her professional background, experience and training.

 

References

(1) https://counseling.cofc.edu/health/sex/index.php
(2) https://pages.shanti.virginia.edu/Peer_Health_Educator/2015/04/1404/

1 Comment(s)

Cassy:
22/12/2020, 05:21:54 PM
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I never realised dildos and dongs were different!

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